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By Gloria Davidova
As a society, we often get involved in activities or interests that may not interest us, but we are trying to follow a trend or please someone else. Whether that is a celebrity, friend, or family member, after some time has passed you lose interest and may ask yourself, What’s the point?
The first thing to do is identify the reason that you were entangled in whatever trend you were following. That can tell you about something that you value. We often try to recreate images—to be like someone else—but this is exactly where the lie starts. The lie is in the images, that something about you is flawed. You are not in this world to correct yourself, but to bring a new perspective into reality. There is no need to recreate an image when there is already a personality inside of you. Anybody can make or recreate an image, but nobody can recreate exactly someone else, because everybody is unique. Why recreate to “correct” yourself when you can create solutions to problems or spend your energy in a positive manner.
Next, evaluate whether this hobby (or whatever you are questioning) lines up with your interests. If it is not something worth your time, stop doing it… you are probably losing more than your time. If it is something you genuinely enjoy and it interests you, keep doing it and build the rest of your life around it.
There is no use in wasting precious time to do something that only drains your emotional/physical energy, and on the other hand, doing what you love and giving all of your energy to a cause will reap nothing but benefits. You will feel purposeful, confident, and look at the world through a more positive lens. Lissa Rankin, M.D. conducted a study in 2013 and found that stressful work can be toxic and even be fatal. Therefore, doing activities that you love will extend your lifespan. Do what you love!