“I am worried about managing my AP classes and J-Term. Will there be enough time to keep up with everything and keep my GPA high?”
Don’t worry! You’ll find yourself having enough time to manage the coursework from your AP classes and the work from your J-Term. If you feel like you’re having trouble managing the two, know that you have a great support system here and you can always ask your friends, classmates, and teachers for help. Besides, you always have the weekends available (at least depending on your schedule) to focus on your AP classes. You can always make time but remember to have fun as well!
“All of my friends juul and sometimes I’m pressured to rip the juul but I’m just not ready for heavy drug use, what do I do?”
Juuling is not healthy. As a pug who values the importance of healthy lungs, I never juul myself. So, you are smart to resist. However, I think your question is really about peer pressure.
Peer pressure can be difficult to handle but remember that this is your life and that you know what’s best for you. If you’re not comfortable doing something, just say no or leave the situation. It’s ok to say no because juuling and other heavy drug use have serious health consequences. If you want a more subtle approach, try and find ways to deflect the pressure through humor, switching subjects, or diverting attention away.
Express your discomfort to your friends and state your boundaries. If they can’t understand them, are they really your friends? If you still feel pressured, reach out to someone for support.
“Let’s say you have a friend who you really like a lot but says some really inappropriate things sometimes. You wish they wouldn’t do that but you’re afraid to say anything because then they’ll get mad at you. What would you do?”
Deflection is key, my friend! If you’re uncomfortable with the topic and/or situation, change it. Focus the attention somewhere else, whether it be through a compliment, quick anecdote, or a question. Some people like having the attention focused on them, so play that to your advantage.
It’s also ok to fight. If you’re uncomfortable with something, express it! Communication is key to any relationship.
“It seems as though I am always out of the loop about everything. I don’t want a social media, but that seems to be the only way to actually be able to keep up with what is going on socially-wise at school. Any advice on how I can stay true to myself while also not being left out of things?”
Dear Friend Troubles,
I know that feeling out of the loop sucks but instead of focusing on feeling out of the loop, try and see how you and your friends can socialize without social media. That might be through catching a movie, binge watching Netflix together, or even just talking to each other. If you still feel that you need social media in order to stay connected with your friends, maybe view this as an opportunity to expand your loop. Although it seems like a rarity nowadays, there still are people out there who don’t have social media and still have a social life going on. The secret to that lies with one of the oldest forms of communication: actually talking to one another. Don’t be afraid to strike a conversation with someone new or join one of the many clubs that University offers–you never know where it might lead! Heck, start your own club on whatever you’re interested in–you never know who you might meet! If you allow yourself to focus on what you can do without social media, you might find out that there’s still a whole world out there waiting for you.
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